4 Things That Happened When I Deactivated Facebook

I haven’t updated my blog for nearly two months now and I feel truly sorry about that.

Firstly, I attempted to take the Blogchatter Challenge of blogging everyday for the month of April and then I realized with my own projects this might not be feasible. I confess I felt miserable to have given up and in that mind state I stopped updating my blog altogether. Then I got into this funk which carried on and on till the time I realized that the only way to get out of it is to write something. Anything.

Anyway, though my blogging has failed over this period, my writing has actually gone well. Not as much as I wanted to, but still it wasn’t a total failure. But the most progress I made was in terms of reading.

I read and I read and I read

The biggest reason for this is that I deactivated my social media account and that made me read a lot. I read some amazing books which I’d review here over the next few days (I promise!). In fact, I deactivated my account on April 15th and since then I’d finished 7 books and I’m about to finish a couple more by this week.

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(Yeah, that’s me every night, drowsily drinking in ‘one more page’, till the Kindle slips from my hand and falls on my face with a thud! Image Source: Giphy)

Focused on people who actually care

Deactivating Facebook gives you a perspective about people who indeed care about you. Have you noticed how some ‘friends’ are so hooked on to every little event you share on social media or every opinion you post about? See how many of them even cares about texting you back when you go MIA?

There are just a handful of people who truly care about us and in our baseless fear of missing out on action in the Digital Universe, we tend to ignore them. I’ve spent precious moments with my mother back in Kolkata, and with my husband and my pets at home. Maybe, we did nothing spectacular but we were totally zoned into whatever insignificant topic we discussed, we truly enjoyed the meals we shared, and squeezed out drops of laughter and joy from every little thing we did. (Luckily, my husband is not that active on any social media platform.)

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(Here’s to the people who really matter. Image Source: Giphy)

The ‘disappearing’ chunks of time

Every morning I’d wake up with a hangover kind of a sensation thinking about the hours that I missed out on the day before with my face stuck to the screen. I really lost track of chunks of time that simply ‘disappeared’ from my life, not unlike that of a drug addict. Yes, my addiction is severe and hence I needed severe measures to control it. I do plan on getting back on Facebook but I’d limit my exposure and till the time I feel capable of doing that, I’d keep my account deactivated.

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(That dude with his eyes popping out and his tongue lolling, yeah that was me. Image Source: Giphy)

The mental clutter

Imagine you’ve brushed your teeth, slipped into your comfy clothes, got under the sheets and turned off the lights. And then? And then, you enter into an argument on feminism or politics and keep explaining yourself to random people on Facebook. Or maybe, you keep scrolling through the European vacation pictures of that friend you’d last seen two decades back and wouldn’t even recognize on the streets if not for social media. Suddenly, these things become the most pressing issues in your mind. You slip into the worm hole of debates, discussions. likes, comments, arguments and four hours later, when you emerge exhausted, all you feel is a sense of hollowness. How is it helping me? I kept asking myself. How is my life being enriched by these interactions? I’m yet to find the answer.

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(Imagine dumping junk on your mind for hours every single day. Image Source: Giphy)

This is definitely not an exhaustive list of the way I feel while being away from Facebook. However, these are some of the most important ones. If you feel the same way about being on social media, then I encourage you to deactivate your account for a while and see how it all works out. Also there are other methods like adding a blocker to your browser or deleting the Facebook app from your phone. If you’d like to read more on how such an addiction is impacting you and how you can get rid of the same, then I strongly recommend you to read the book: How to Break Up With Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life by Catherine Price.

 

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8 thoughts on “4 Things That Happened When I Deactivated Facebook

  1. Kasturi, on the topic, this post of yours is one of the most refreshing I have read in quite a while. Good for you. We did miss you in the blogging world (and I did check your blog in that time to see if I’d missed a post). But I’m so glad that you had quality time with your family and got to read lots. I know that when I have less screen time I can read better and with greater levels of concentration. A few years ago I left Facebook for a while too. It was for similar reasons to you and because I was getting pestered there on so many fronts, even with work requests. When I had first joined Facebook, it was to keep in touch with family and friends who were far away and who I did not get to see very often face to face. When I returned to Facebook, it was for that reason. Now, I’m disciplined on whom I add and have my privacy settings high. Some of my closer blog friends have been added, but they are far away friends.
    Thanks for coming back to share this post, Kasturi. Meanwhile we await your book reviews. In the time I left Facebook I never contemplated leaving Goodreads! 🙂

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    • Thanks so much for that lovely comment, Simon. It feels so nice to know that a fellow blogger had been looking at my blog to see whether I’d posted anything. Thanks so much for the kindness. Yes, I too am trying to instill that level of discipline in my life regarding social media. Let’s see how far I can succeed. Yes, I can never leave Goodreads either. 🙂 Thanks so much for reading once again.

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